When a couple is joined together in marriage, it could be looked on as a “marriage deal’. In other words, it is an agreement according to the marital vows, ‘ to love and cherish until death do us part”; but this deal must be taken into consideration as couples grow and develop from one stage to the other, and with age. The expectations of a couple in their twenties, can be the same at the age of 70, but it may look a little different due to various situations in the developmental process, so your spouse who once would take 4 steps walking to you when you would say, ‘come here darling’ may now take 8 steps . This is where some relationships may run into trouble if the deal does not keep in the “up to date mode” as life changes with time. The thing to do though, is take the time to talk about the commitments, the challenges and the hopes so as to maintain the deal that was place on the table in the initial stage of the marriage. Bear in mind for this to be a success, it should not be done with the wrong attitude but instead, couples should engage in a conversation about what the updates will be, and it will look at this stage. This should be done with grace ,love, compassion, and laughter. Make every effort to be pro-active with your marriage deal so that the relationship does not appear to be one-sided or lacking.
Reflection: How do you feel about updating the marriage deal as your life changes with age?
Prayer: Heavenly father , I pray for every couple who are growing together in love and harmony . May you guide them as to how to meet each other needs the best way they can as they grow together. Bless them I pray in the Name of Jesus , Amen